Routines and Structure
Routines give children a sense of security and help them develop self-discipline. A predictable routine allows children to feel safe, and to develop a sense of mastery in handling their lives. Routines teach kids how to constructively manage themselves and their environments.
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7 Ways Kids Benefit When You Use Routines
Why do kids need routines? Because routines give them a sense of security and help them develop self-discipline.
Building an evening routine for kids of different ages
Hi Dr. Laura,
I have difficulty setting a routine with my two children who have a 7 year age difference and are of different sexes. How can I incorporate a
routine that will work for everybody? I grew up without routine and am used to doing things as they come spur of the moment but I want to change
this as I understand it builds self confidence in children. Help!
Starting a Family Routine
I came from a childhood of no structure and it was all right.Although it was just me. I have 2 boys 8 and 3. We have very little structure and I find we are always fighting to get teeth brushed, hair brush, sitting at the table for supper. Everything. So how do I start to implement this now and how do I deal with the arguing I know I'll get.
-- Tammy.
Routines that Toddlers Can Understand
Young children function best with structured schedules. Toddlers and preschoolers, especially, feel small in the world. Most things happen TO them. They crave predictability, knowing what will happen, because it gives them some sense of control. A predictable routine allows children to feel safe, and to develop a sense of mastery in handling their lives.
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