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Introduction

¹Stormshak, Elizabeth A., Bullock, Bernadette M., and Falkenstein, Corrina A. “Harnessing the Power of Sibling Relationships as a Tool for Optimizing Social-Emotional Development. (2009). In L. Kramer & K.J. Conger (Eds.), Siblings As Agents of Socialization. New Directions for Child and Adolescent Development. 126, 61-77. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

Part 1

¹Brody, G. H. (1998). “Sibling Relationship Quality: Its Causes and Consequences.” Annual Review Psychology, vol. 49: 1–24.

Chapter 1

¹Kohn, Alfie (2006). Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason. New York: Atria Books.

²Brody, G. H. (1998). “Sibling Relationship Quality: Its Causes and Consequences.” Annual Review Psychology, vol. 49: 1–24.

³Siegel, Daniel, and Hartzell, Mary (2004). Parenting from the Inside Out. New York: Tarcher

Siegel, Dan. “The Low Road,” PsychAlive, March 3, 2011. youtube.com/watch?v=WkEcpBU3TpE.

⁴Benson, Herbert (2000). The Relaxation Response. New York: HarperTorch.

⁵Restak, Richard (1980). The Brain: The Last Frontier. New York: Warner Books.

⁶Schore, Allan (2003). Affect Regulation and Repair of the Self. New York: WW Norton & Company.

⁷Gottman, John and Declaire, Joan (1998). Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting  New York: Simon & Schuster.

⁸Bronson, Po, and Merryman, Ashley (2009). Nurture Shock. New York: Hachette, p. 128.

⁹Schore, Allan (2003). Affect Regulation and Repair of the Self. New York: WW Norton & Company.

¹⁰Sunderland, Margot (2008). The Science of Parenting. London: DK Adult.

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Chapter 2

¹Brody, G. H. (1998). “Sibling Relationship Quality: Its Causes and Consequences.” Annual Review Psychology,vol. 49: 1–24. Stormshak, Elizabeth A., Bullock, Bernadette M., and Falkenstein, Corrina A. (2009). “Harnessing the Power of Sibling Relationships as a Tool for Optimizing Social-Emotional Development.” In L. Kramer and K. J. Conger (eds.), Siblings As Agents of Socialization. New Directions for Child and Adolescent Development, vol. 126: 61–77. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

²Stormshak, Bullock, and Falkenstein. “Harnessing the Power of Sibling Relationships as a Tool for Optimizing Social-Emotional Development.”

³Brody, G. H., Stoneman, Z., and McCoy, J. K. (1994). “Contributions of Family Relationships and Child Temperaments to Longitudinal Variations in Sibling Relationship Quality and Sibling Relationship Styles.” Journal of Family Psychology, vol. 8, no. 3: 274–86.

^{4, 5,} Kohn, Alfie (2005). Unconditional Parenting. New York: Atria.

⁶Brody, G. H., and Shaffer, D. R. (1982). “Contributions of Parents and Peers to Children’s Moral Socialization. Developmental Review, vol. 2: 31–75.

⁷Kochanska, G. (1993). “Toward a Synthesis of Parental Socialization and Child Temperament in Early Stages of Conscience. Child Development, vol. 64: 325–47.

⁸Baumrind, Diana. (1967). Child care practices anteceding three patterns of preschool behavior. Genetic Psychology Monographs, 75(1), 43-88

⁹Siegel, D. J., and Bryson, T. P. “Timeouts Are Hurting Your Child.” Time Magazine, September 23, 2014.

¹¹Taylor, Catherine A., Manganello, Jennifer A., Lee, Shawna J., and Rice, Janet C. “Mothers’ Spanking of 3-Year-Old Children and Subsequent Risk of Children’s Aggressive Behavior.” Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics. Originally published online, April 12, 2010. DOI: 10.1542/peds. 2009-2678.

¹²Chapman, Michael, and Zahn-Waxler, Carolyn (1982). “Young Children’s Compliance and Noncompliance to Parental Discipline in a Natural Setting.” International Journal of Behavioral Development, vol. 5: 90.

¹³Hoffman, Martin (1970). “Moral Development.” In Paul H. Mussen (ed.), Carmichael’s Manual of Child Psychology, 3rd ed., vol. 2. New York: Wiley.

¹⁴Kohn, Alfie (1999). Punished by Rewards. New York: Mariner Books.

¹⁵Ibid.

¹⁶Kramer, Laurie. (2010) “The Essential Ingredients of Successful Sibling Relationships: An Emerging Framework for Advancing Theory and Practice.” Child Development Perspectives, vol 4, no 2, pp 80–86.

¹⁷Pike, Alison, Kretschmer, Tina, and Dunn, Judith F. (2009). “Siblings—Friends or Foes?” The Psychologist, vol. 22, part 6 (June): 494–97.

¹⁸Mora-Ripoll Ramo. (2010). “The therapeutic value of laughter in medicine.” Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine. Vol 16, no. 6: 56-64.

Carr, J. and Greeves, L. (2006) Only Joking: What's So Funny About Making People Laugh? New York: Penguin/Gotham (Chapter 2). Flindt, T. (2014 ). Happy Lemons: How Laughter Breeds Success. Amazon Digital: Pine Tribe Ltd. (Chapter 1). van Vugt, M., Hardy, C., Stow, J., and Dunbar, R. (2012). “Laughter as Social Lubricant: A Biosocial Hypothesis about the Pro-social Functions of Laughter and Humor.” (submitted.) 

Chapter 3

¹Faber, Adele, and Mazlish, Elaine (1987). Siblings Without Rivalry. New York: Avon Books.

²Munn, Penny, and Dunn, Judith (1989). “Temperament and the Developing Relationship Between Siblings.” International Journal of Behavioral Development, vol. 12, no. 4: 433–51.

³Legg, Cecily, Sherick, Ivan, and Wadland, William (1974). “Reaction of Preschool Children to the Birth of a Sibling.” Child Psychiatry and Human Development, vol. 5, no. 1: 3–39.

⁴Dunn, J., Kendrick, C., and MacNamee, R. (1981). “The Reaction of Firstborn Children to the Birth of a Sibling: Mothers’ Reports.” Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, vol. 22: 1–18.

⁵Brody, G. H., Stoneman, Z., and Burke, M. (1987). “Child Temperaments, Maternal Differential Behavior, and Sibling Relationships.” Developmental Psychology, vol. 23: 354–62.

⁶Brody, G. H. (1998). “Sibling Relationship Quality: Its Causes and Consequences.” Annual Review of Psychology, vol. 49: 1–24. Stocker, C., Dunn, J., and Plomin, R. (1989). “Sibling Relationships: Links with Child Temperament, Maternal Behavior, and Family Structure.” Child Development, vol. 60: 715–27.

⁷Mash, E. J., and Johnson, C. (1983). “Sibling Interactions of Hyperactive and Normal Children and Their Relationship to Reports of Maternal Stress and Self-Esteem.” Journal of Clinical Child Psychology, vol. 12: 91–99.

⁸Stoneman, Z., and Brody, G. H. (1993). “Sibling Temperaments, Conflict, Warmth, and Role Asymmetry.” Child Development, vol. 64: 1786–1800.

⁹Brody, G. H., Stoneman, Z., and Gauger, K. (1996). “Parent-Child Relationships, Family Problem Solving Behavior, and Sibling Relationship Quality: The Moderating Role of Sibling Temperaments.” Child Development, vol. 67: 1289–1300.

¹⁰Buhrmester, D., and Furman, W. (1990). “Perceptions of Sibling Relationships During Middle Childhood and Adolescence.” Child Development, vol. 61: 1387–98.

¹¹Dunn, Judy (1995). From One Child to Two. New York: Fawcett Books, p. 134.

¹²Siegel, Daniel. (2012) The Developing Mind, Second Edition: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are. New York: The Guilford Press. pp 52.

¹³Dunn, Judith, Kendrick, Carol, and MacNamee, Rosanne (1981). “The Reaction of First-Born Children to the Birth of a Sibling: Mothers’ Reports.” Journal of Child Psychology, vol. 22: 1–18.

¹⁴Royce, Rachel A. (2006). “Birth Spacing—The Long and Short of It.” Journal of the American Medical Association. Vol 295, no 15: 1837-1838

¹⁵Werner, Emmy E. (1993). “Risk, resilience, and recovery: Perspectives from the Kauai Longitudinal Study.” Development and Psychopathology (Impact Factor: 4.4). Vol 5 No 4: 503 – 515. Also, subsequent personal email communication with lead researcher.

¹⁶Buhrmester, D., and Furman, W. (1990). “Perceptions of Sibling Relationships During Middle Childhood and Adolescence.” Child Development, vol. 61: 1387–98.

¹⁷Stewart, Robert B., Mobley, Linda A., Van Tuyl, Susan S., and Salvador, Myrna A. (1987). “The Firstborn’s Adjustment to the Birth of a Sibling: A Longitudinal Assessment. Child Development, vol. 58: 341–55.

¹⁸Buhrmester, D., and Furman, W. (1990). “Perceptions of Sibling Relationships During Middle Childhood and Adolescence.” Child Development, vol. 61: 1387–98.

¹⁹Brody, G. H. (1998). “Sibling Relationship Quality: Its Causes and Consequences.” Annual Review of Psychology, vol. 49: 1–24. Bryant, Brenda K., and Crockenberg, Susan B. (1980). “Correlates and Dimensions of Prosocial Behavior: A Study of Female Siblings with Their Mothers.” Child Development, vol. 51: 529–44. Staub, E. (1975). The Development of Prosocial Behavior in Children. New York: General Learning.

²⁰Brody, G. H., Stoneman, Z., and Burke, M. (1987). “Child Temperaments, Maternal Differential Behavior, and Sibling Relationships.” Developmental Psychology, vol. 23: 354–62. Stocker, C., and McHale, S. (1992). “The Nature and Family Correlates of Preadolescents’ Perceptions of Their Sibling Relationships.” Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, vol. 9: 179–95. Brody, G. H., Stoneman, Z., and McCoy, J. (1992). “Associations of Maternal and Paternal Direct and Differential Behavior with Sibling Relationships: Contemporaneous and Longitudinal Analyses,” Child Development, vol. 63: 82–92.

²¹Brody, G. H., Stoneman, Z., and Gauger, K. (1996). “Parent-Child Relationships, Family Problem Solving Behavior, and Sibling Relationship Quality: The Moderating Role of Sibling Temperaments.” Child Development,vol. 67, 1289–1300.

Chapter 4

¹Dunn, J., and Munn, P. (1986). “Sibling Quarrels and Maternal Intervention: Individual Differences in Understanding Aggression.” Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, vol. 27: 583–95.

²Ross, Hildy, Ross, Michael, Stein, Nancy, and Trabasso, Tom. “How Siblings Resolve Their Conflicts” (2006). Child Development, vol. 77, no. 6: 1730–45.

³Bronson, Po, and Merryman, Ashley (2009). Nurture Shock. New York: Hachette. p. 119.

⁴Kramer, Laurie, and Gottman, John (1992). “Becoming a Sibling: With a Little Help from My Friends.” Developmental Psychology, vol. 28, no. 4: 685–99.

⁵Ibid.

⁶Dunn, Judith, Brown, Jane, and Beardsall, Lynn (1991). “Family Talk About Feeling States and Children’s Later Understanding of Others’ Emotions.” Developmental Psychology, vol. 27, no. 3: 448–55.

⁷Brody, G. H., Stoneman, Z., McCoy, J. K., and Forehand, R. (1992). “Contemporaneous and Longitudinal Associations of Sibling Conflict with Family Relationship Assessments and Family Discussions About Sibling Problems.” Child Development, vol. 63: 391–400.

Chapter 5

¹Piaget, Jean (1997). The Moral Judgment of the Child. Glencoe, Ill.: The Free Press.

²Felson, Richard B. (1983). “Aggression and Violence Between Siblings.” Social Psychology Quarterly, vol. 46, no. 4, 271–85.

³Siegel, A. E., and Kohn, L. G. (1959). “Permissiveness, Permission, and Aggression: The Effect of Adult Presence or Absence on Aggression in Children’s Play.” Child Development, vol. 30: 131–41.

⁴Perlman, Michal, and Ross, Hildy S. (1997). “The Benefits of Parent Intervention in Children’s Disputes: An Examination of Concurrent Changes in Children’s Fighting Styles.” Child Development, vol. 64, no. 4: 690–700.

⁵Perlman and Ross. “The Benefits of Parent Intervention in Children’s Disputes: An Examination of Concurrent Changes in Children’s Fighting Styles.” Dunn, Judy, and Munn, Penny (1986). “Sibling Quarrels and Maternal Intervention: Individual Differences in Understanding and Aggression.” Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, vol. 27, no. 5: 585–95.

⁶Lansbury, Janet (2014). No Bad Kids. Self-published. Lansbury, Janet. “Helping Kids Resolve Conflicts (Rules of Engagement),” blog post, September 5, 2013. janetlansbury.com/2013/09/helping-toddlers-resolve-conflicts-rules-of-engagement.

⁷Cohen, Lawrence (2002). Playful Parenting. New York: Ballantine. Cohen, Lawrence (2013). The Opposite of Worry. New York: Ballantine. DeBenedet, Anthony, and Cohen, Lawrence (2011). The Art of Roughousing. Philadelphia: Quirk Books.

⁸Bushman, Brad J. (2002) “Does Venting Anger Feed or Extinguish the Flame? Catharsis, Rumination, Distraction, Anger, and Aggressive Responding.” Society for Personality and Social Psychology Vol. 28 No. 6: 724-731.

⁹Kendrick, C., and Dunn, J. (1983). “Sibling Quarrels and Maternal Responses.” Developmental Psychology, vol. 19: 62–70.

Chapter 6

¹Shumaker, Heather (2012). It’s Okay Not to Share. New York: Tarcher/Penguin.

²Eisenberg, Nancy (2009). “Eight Tips to Developing Caring Kids,” in David Streight (ed.), Good Things to Do: Expert Suggestions for Fostering Goodness in Kids. Portland: The Center for Spiritual and Ethical Education.

Chapter 7

¹Kowal, Amanda, and Kramer, Laurie (1997). “Children’s Understanding of Parental Differential Treatment.” Child Development, vol. 68, no. 1 (February): 113–26.

²Faber, Adele, and Mazlish, Elaine (1987). Siblings Without Rivalry. New York: Avon Books. Pp 51.

³Cartmell, Todd (2003) Keep the Siblings, Lose the Rivalry. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan. (There’s a wealth of research on differential treatment by parents causing sibling rivalry; Cartmell’s book cites a number of studies.)

⁴Dunn, J. (1988). “Annotation: Sibling Influences on Childhood Development.” Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, vol. 29, no. 2: 119–27.

⁵Faber, Adele, and Mazlish, Elaine (1987). Siblings Without Rivalry. New York: Avon Books, p. 54.

⁶Sears, William. “20 Tips to Stop Quibbling Siblings and Promote Sibling Harmony,” Ask Dr. Sears, askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/discipline-behavior/bothersome-behaviors/sibling-rivalry/20-tips-stop-quibbling.

⁷Faber, Adele, and Mazlish, Elaine (1987). Siblings Without Rivalry. New York: Avon Books. p. 87.

⁸Gable, S., Gonzaga, G., and Strachman, A. (2006). “Will You Be There for Me When Things Go Right? Supportive Responses to Positive Event Disclosures.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, vol. 91, no. 5, 904–17.

⁹Kowal, Amanda, and Kramer, Laurie (1997). “Children’s Understanding of Parental Differential Treatment.” Child Development, vol. 68, no. 1 (February): 113–26.

¹⁰Bay-Hinitz, A. K., Peterson, R. F., and Quilitch, H. R. (1994). “Lucasative Games: A Way to Modify Aggressive and Lucasative Behaviors in Young Children.” Journal of Applied Behavioral Analysis, vol. 27, no. 3 (Fall): 435–46.

¹¹Solter, Aletha J. Helping Young Children Flourish. (1989) Goleta, CA: Shining Star Press. Pp.114.

¹²Cohen, Lawrence (2002). Playful Parenting. New York: Ballantine.

¹³Jefferson T., Herbst J. H., McCrae R. R. (1998). "Associations between birth order and personality traits: Evidence from self-reports and observer ratings". Journal of Research in Personality. 32 (4): 498–509

¹⁴Cartmell, T. (2003) Keep the Siblings, Lose the Rivalry. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Zondervan.

Chapter 8

¹Kramer, Laurie. “Focus: Fostering Sibling Relations.” Illinois Public Media, January 26, 2011. youtube.com/watch?v=337kYpjMgM0.

²Stark, V. (2006). My Sister, My Self. New York: McGraw-Hill.

³Sears, William. “20 Tips to Stop Quibbling Siblings and Promote Sibling Harmony.” Ask Dr. Sears, askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/discipline-behavior/bothersome-behaviors/sibling-rivalry/20-tips-stop-quibbling.

⁴Bronson, Po, and Merryman, Ashley (2009). Nurture Shock. New York: Hachette, p. 122.

⁵Gottman, J.M.(2002) The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships. New York: Crown/Harmony.

⁶Carter, Christine (2011). Raising Happiness. New York: Ballantine.

⁷McCready, Amy (2012). If I Have to Tell You One More Time. New York: Tarcher/Penguin, p. 231.

⁸Pike, Alison, Kretschmer, Tina, and Dunn, Judith F. (2009). “Siblings—Friends or Foes?” The Psychologist, vol. 22, part 6 (June): 494–97.

Chapter 9

¹American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, “Frequently Asked Questions,” acog.org/~/media/For%20Patients/faq090.pdf?dmc=1&ts=20131206T0815450980.

²Dunn, Judith, and Brown, Jane (1991). “Family Talk About Feeling States and Children’s Later Understanding of Others’ Emotions.” Developmental Psychology, vol. 27, no. 3: 448–55.

³Findeisen, Barbara, and Lipton, Bruce (2002). Nature, Nurture, and the Power of Love: The Biology of Conscious Parenting. 120 minutes, VHS or PAL. Distributed by Spirit 2000, P.O. Box 41126, Memphis, TN 38174-1126, info@spirit2000.com, 800-284-8045 (U.S. only), spirit2000.com.

⁴Cohen, Lawrence (2002). Playful Parenting. New York: Ballantine.

⁵Palmer, Linda F. (2002) “The Chemistry of Attachment.” Attachment Parenting International News, vol. 5, no. 2. attachmentparenting.org/support/articles/chemistry

⁶Sheryl Paul, Conscious Transitions (blog), conscious-transitions.com/blog.

⁷Samalin, Nancy. (1997) Loving Each One Best: A Caring and Practical Approach to Raising Siblings. New York: Bantam

Chapter 10

¹Personal communication, July 15, 1995.

²DeBenedet, Anothony T. and Cohen, Lawrence. (2010) The Art of Roughhousing: Good Old-Fashioned Horseplay and Why Every Kid Needs It. Philadelphia: Quirk Books.

³Nelsen, J. Lott, L., Glenn, S. (1993). Positive Discipline A to Z. Rockli, CA: Prima Publishing. pp 31.

⁴Legg, Cecily, Sherick, Ivan, and Wadland, William (1994). “Reaction of Preschool Children to the Birth of a Sibling.” Child Psychiatry and Human Development. vol. 5, no. 1: 3–39.

⁵Bailey, Becky (2000). I Love You Rituals. New York: HarperCollins.

⁶Kramer, Laurie, Noorman, Sonia, and Brockman, Renee (1999). “Representations of Sibling Relationships in Young Children’s Literature.” Early Childhood Research Quarterly, vol. 14, no. 4: 555–74.

⁷Gottman, John (1998), Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child. New York: Simon and Schuster.

⁸Dunn, J., and Kendrick, C. (1982). Siblings: Love, Envy and Understanding. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.

Chapter 11

¹Cicirelli, V. G. (1977). “Family Structure and Interaction: Sibling Effects on Socialization.” In M. McMillan and M. Sergio (eds.), Child Psychiatry: Treatment and Research. New York: Brunner/Mazel.

²Brody, G. H., Stoneman, Z., and Burke, M. (1987). “Child Temperaments, Maternal Differential Behavior, and Sibling Relationships.” Developmental Psychology, vol. 23, no. 3: 354–62.

³Gerber, Magda (1998). Your Self-Confident Baby. New York: Wiley and Sons.